tips on achieving your goals:

HEYYYYY,

like ive said before, i only made one goal this year. i bet youre thinking: “kelsey, wtf? how do you only make one goal?”. well, yeah. i only made one. but now as i am growing within that one goal, i realized i have been making little goals within the big one.

i want to share how i set goals and what i think, are the best ways to achieve those goals:

  • WRITE DOWN THE QUESTIONS YOU HAVE ABOUT YOUR GOALS: this is key. i never did this and i would spend more time over-thinking and wondering how i would achieve a goal. i started to write down the questions i have about my goal and it made me feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. by having those written down, i felt as if my goal was more achievable. the questions and worry were off my mind and i was able to look at each question and try to figure out the solution.
  • GOALS CAN CHANGE: i mean, i had one goal and now i have many goals but theyre little ones that play off the overall goal i have. even if you set five goals for yourself and one of those doesnt seem to really “make sense” anymore, change it so align with what you want to achieve.by doing this, you arent wasting time thinking about how youre going to achieve something that you have no interest or passion in doing therefore, bring down your stronger goals.
  • MAKE A PLAN: if you dont make a plan, how will you grow? how will you know if you accomplished a goal? how will you know if you need to change a goal/make a modification? you wont know. youll just make excuses. youll make excuses as to why you goal(s) arent being achieved. youll make excuse of “well i dont see anything changing and im doing all i can or all i know how”. but are you doing all you can? are you looking at different ways to surpass your goal? with having a plan, youre able to see what needs improvement and where. i recently just did this, i printed off calendars for the next two months and wrote down what i need to get done when and what im going to focus on every single day.
  • STEP OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: trust me here. i know i know, you always want to be in your comfort zone because helllloooo its comfy! but if i have learned anything from blogging…just in this year alone, its you need to try new things, i talk about this ALL THE TIME. you need to try new things that are going to help you in reaching your goal(s). and i can tell you since i have stepped out of my comfort zone, i can feel achievement, change and reassurance that i can reach my goal! yes, the only one goal i have lol. do what you need to do to reach that goal!!
  • LISTEN TO YOURSELF: make sure when setting your goal(s), youre setting a goal(s) for something that you really want, something you can almost taste! my goal was to focus on my blog and from there i have created the small goals. i really want my blog to be successful and i want to be a place people visit and get excited when a new post comes out. i literally have this vision because i keep telling myself “you want this”, you want to be your own boss”. and if i didnt listen to myself, if i didnt listen to my thoughts or listen as to why i want to do those things, i wouldnt be so hungry to achieve what it is i want to achieve.

i also hope you know, you can set goals whenever. there is not rule that you have to set ALL your goals on january 1st. theres no rules if your goals are easy one or challenging ones. theres no rules when it comes to how long it take to reach your goals. follow the steps above and let those motivate you to reach your goal(s).

xoxo kelsey

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oh sh!t, its sunday! 5 tips for a planned week ahead

happy sunday everyone!

yes, i know…its been awhile since ive done an oh sh!t butttttttt we are here and its happening.

i know you know this feeling: you wake up sunday and youre like: “okay, yeah, its still early, its still the weekend, i got this.” then the day goes on and youre like: “oh, sh!t, its sunday that means tomorrow is monday and now im freaking out a bit because i have nothing ready and i just love the weekend and im not ready for the week”.

that literally is almost always me, every sunday. but i have learned a few ways to help relieve the sheer panic of those sunday feelings. here is a list of things i do every sunday to help me not freak out as much on sundays and to make my week go by like no ones business!

plan your lunches for the week:

  • i hear it alllll the time at work: “how do you eat the same thing every single day for lunch?”. well, its easy…i make sure i plan out what it is im going to make. its not like im not going to make something gross.(its happened before and i did freak out because i had to come up with quick lunches for the week) BUT i plan out what im making and make sure its something thatll be good and something i am willing to eat for the whole week. i also make sure i have enough heathy snack ready for the week too like hard boiled eggs, apples and carrots with celery.
this week is chicken, sweet potatoes, mozzarella cheese with buffalo and ranch.

plan your dinners for the week:

  • yes, i am that crazy and plan out my dinners for every.single.day.of.the.week. and please do not tell me you dont have time. if you have enough time to come up with excuses as to why you cant do this, then you have enough time to plan out your meals. i will admit though, life does happen & i dont always make everything i plan on making and thats okay! but planning out your dinners shouldnt be hard! my secret is, going on pinterest, saving dinners that im making for the week on this pinterest board. from there i add what i need to my shopping list and BOOM! all planned out the week. this leaves no room for panic when it comes to what youre going to make for dinner. by doing this, you will have more time during the week to do things you want to do rather than worrying about what is for dinner and having all the ingredients.

clean up your space:

  • i spent almost two hours cleaning up my house today. so yes, i actually do this stuff! i always tend to “slack” on cleaning up during the week so i normally use sundays for that. i know, the last thing you want to do on the weekend is clean. but cleaning now, will help relieve your stress during the week. you wont be sitting there thinking: “i really should clean this but i dont want to” and then worry about it for the rest of the week. if your put your stuff away and clean up on sunday then that leaves the rest of the week open to opportunity to do other things rather than cleaning or putting away all your clean laundry. so go and put away those four pairs of shoes laying in your kitchen, fold all those pants and shirts you have laying on the floor, do those dishes and clean out your pantry that youve been talking about for weeks now! (let me know if you find anything good lol).

check your calendar & update:

  • i am slowly making the switch from a planner to using google calendar. ive always been a visual person and ive always enjoyed psychically writing down what i have going on, making it look pretty and going back and looking at what i accomplished. yes i still make “do to lists” but i have now more than every used google calendar. i like it because one, i can write down EVERYTHING i need to know about the event or place im headed to, i dont have to flip through my planner or quickly google something. another thing i like is that you dont have to lug around a planner also youre able to check right away if you have something going on and not double plan anything!

reflect:

  • yes, you should reflect on sundays. i mean you should reflect all the time but i alway use sundays as a day to set the mood for the week ahead, i think about my goals for the week, what can i do next week that i didnt do last or how can i improve a situation that happened last week. i am sloooooowly learning that sundays arent THAT bad, its more about your mindset that anything. if you tell yourself that its going to be shitty and your week is going to suck then guess what, its going to suck! but if you use your sunday as a positive, you can gain motivation for the week ahead. use my little tips to help you be ready for the week so it “doesnt suck”. again, use reflection as a good thing here, use it for YOU. have a positive mindset and know youre able to do ANYTHING you put your mind to.

hope these tips can help, even if its just a little bit πŸ™‚

and there we have it! five ways to make your sunday & your week go well! BTW – you do have to follow all my tips because i said so! just kidding :). if anything, try one. try the one that you normally would never do and see how much it can change your mindset and/or lifestyle for your sunday and your week.

have a good week!

xoxo kelsey

6 tips on adult friendships

hi friends,

you never think something that happens to you when youre a kid, will happen to you again as an adult, right?

when i was little, i switched school districts going into first grade. so that meant a new house, new school and new friends. i can remember making my first friend that was just down the road from me. this was the first time in my life that i was able to just walk over to a friends, was able to have sleep overs and was able to have fun without any worry. i finally found something who loved to play as much as me. but that did not last very long. i still can remember it to this day, when meghan told me her and her family were moving. not just moving across town but across the US. i was so sad, so upset because my first real friend was moving… i remember thinking: “who am i going to play with now?”. even though i was only 6, i still can remember how i felt when she said she was moving. growing up i would walk past her house and remember all the good times. there is something about friendship that always stays with you.

and to top it off, she even sent me a few pictures of us growing up!

me on the left and meghan to my right
…” clearly shows the year LOL. like decorating the cake like that” -meghan
2001

well, almost the same thing happen to me about a week ago. here i am 25 and it never crossed my mind that i would have one of my best friends move away, again! this time around though, its a little harder to deal with. its like i have feelings or something lol. but my friend lizzie, moved last week and i thought: “oh ill be okay, we will still talk and we can always visit each other”. well, yeah but i freakin’ miss her! and its weird to no longer have that friend that will go to barre with you, who will grab a drink with you no matter what day of the week it is or just come over for dinner and hangout. okay okay, its not like i cant do that with my other friends but you all know you have that one friend who does the little things with you.

yeah i get it, its only been a week since she moved away but remember…this isnt my first rodeo. ive been here a couple of times! within that week, i have learned a thing or two about friendship.

  • tell your friends you love them. trust me, its not weird. i always tell my friends that i love them. i do it when theyre leaving orrrr just tell them randomly during a conversation. just dont be afraid to tell them you love them, okay?
  • make your friends do things with you. and no just “go shopping” or “get coffee”. make them go to a new workout class, make them go to every vintage store in your city (milwaukee has so many!), make them go to breakfast and then the farmers market. i love when my friends ask me to do new or different things. therefore, you should do the same with your friends! take each other out of your comfort zones. i have never looked back and said: “yikes! that was horrible”. well okay, there was one time lizzie and i took a workout class and we just laughed the whole time because it was ridiculous…to say the least.
  • make your friends dinner, yes they can make it for you too. but if you know anything about me, you know that i love cooking and i MAKE my friends come over to eat. there is nothing more relaxing that having a friend(s) over, having a drink or two while enjoying dinner together and of course, talking.
  • ask them how they are doing. ask them how their day is and ask them about how life is going. this doesnt have to be complex, this also can just be a quick convo but make sure to make the time to check on your friends. i know this is something i need to do more of, but text or call your friend(s) and ask how he/she is doing. something as simple as that can brighten someones day, create joy and a sense of real friendship.
  • dont take advantage of your friends. be open with them, tell them the truth and in turn…they should give you the same. both you and your friends shouldnt get upset with one another just because the other one is busy. but that also means you shouldnt only see your friends when “you have the time”. let me tell you, YOU DO HAVE THE TIME. we all have the time.
  • dont be afraid to be yourself. that is the one thing i love about being an adult. your friends love and accept you for who you are. this isnt middle school anymore, where you have to pretend to like this or have to wear that to fit in. its not like that anymore and thank god! that is something i dont have time for lol. i think being myself and having my friends accept it, is one of the more rewarding things. and its even more rewarding when you friends that are just as weird/ understanding as you πŸ™‚

now go tell your friends that you love them, no matter how far away they are. dont be afriad to reconnect with your friend from first grade that moved away! yes, meghan and i talk reconnect a few years back and now talk at least once a week πŸ™‚

since we are friends, love you guys!

xoxo kelsey

oh sh!t, its sunday: stop comparing yourself to others

hey guys,

didnt this past week feel just, off? i dont know if that was just me orrrrrr not. well, sunday means tomorrow is a new week and things can only get better πŸ™‚ and yes they can, dont say they cant!

well, its sunday and you already know what that means…oh sh!t, its sunday! ive had these on going thoughts about blogging for the longest time but recently, these thoughts have been coming up a lot more.

im always having to remind myself: you dont have to be perfect, you shouldnt be comparing yourself to others, you should focus on what makes sense to YOU. why am i thinking this? its because i get lost once and while when i scroll through social media (yes, instragram…how did you know?).

i will come across profiles and think to myself: “dang! i wish i had x number of followers, i wish i was sponsored by this brand, i wish i could build up my blog enough to become a full time blogger and i wish i could make my content as good as theirs”. this runs through my mind all the time. i find myself becoming jealous because i dont have my nails done all the time, i dont wear a lot of make up, i dont have the newest and nicest clothes and i dont travel around the world once a month. why am i even worried about this? why should i compare myself to others? why should i worry about how many likes or followers i have? well, the answer is simple, i care. i care because i want people to like my ideas, my thoughts and what i do from day to day. i want people to feel what im feeling, i want to be relatable, i want people to not feel alone in this world. so when i see others on social media rocking it, i wonder to myself : “how can i get people to care about what im saying? how can i build up a following? when are people going to stop unfollowing me after following for only a few days?”.

and this is where i have to let all of that go and realize, you will only work as hard as you allow yourself to. okay yeah, so what? i made a promise to myself that i would focus on blog as much as i could in 2019, i will have to say, i think its going pretty well. i made it a goal to create content that is every day and real life, that is relatable along with being simple. i promised i would work as hard as i had to, to make a name for myself and its harder than you think! but like i said, if you want something, you will work hard to make it happen. when i start to have those jealous thoughts, i take a deep breath and see that as motivation. i see it as, if they can do that, I CAN DO IT. it goes back to the classic saying of: “rome wasnt build in a day”. well, my blog and my content wasnt built in a day, it will only get better with time. i can only keep building it up and keep working at it until im proud.

i am more than sure if youre a blogger, like me (yes…dont think im not a blogger or an influencer, i know my blogger besties would back me up here!) or someone who just enjoys reading what influencers have to say, you know there is a part of you what wishes and gets jealous because we wish we had what that person has. if i have learned anything from blogging, meeting bloggers or following bloggers on social media, we should praise one another for where we are and what we are doing. we should support one another regardless if you have 50 followers or 50,000 followers. we should turn our jealousy into something positive. use that jealousy and learn from it. learn how to create content that is more engaging, learn how to interact with different people and simply just take notes and learn from one anothers achievements.

i would be lying if i said i didnt learn a thing or two from the other women i follow. i need to realize that i have a TOTALLY different life than a lot of people that i follow but that shouldnt stop me from creating content that i think is relatable. that shouldnt stop me from wanting to learn more, wanting to know how to improve my thinking, my thought and ideas. ive turned my jealousy into: “what can i work on to make MYSELF better? what can i do to encourage growth in others? what can i do to be relatable and to have people follow me because they can relate to me?”.

i am learning to turn my negative thoughts into positive ones and in-turn, encourage others. i am learning to not let other influencers “get to me” and make me think what im doing isnt good enough…because what im doing is good enough (and can only improve), i take what i can from those influencers and grow from it.

we are all in this together. regardless of who you are. learn from others, encourage others, tell others when theyre doing good. STOP comparing yourself to others, use that as a tool to improve your thinking rather than control your thoughts. stand for what you believe in and dont let someone you never physically met shut you down. all you can is work hard for what you want. what you want shouldnt come easy. set a goal or seven and work your ass off to achieve it.

lets rock out our goals together! you got it!!! but really, you do. i KNOW you do πŸ™‚

xoxo

kelsey

oh sh!t, its sunday. invite a friend over.

welcome to another, oh sh!t, its sunday!

i realized that last week, i wanted to write a post but it just didnt happened so here i am this week πŸ™‚

i think its important to hang out with your friends, to make time for them. with that being said, i think it shouldnt just be on the weekends. we shouldnt save all the “fun” for the friday night to sunday night. i have learned that having friends over, going out with friends or going to a friends house helps for a better week.

i know some of you are thinking: “how do you have time to work, work out AND hang out with your friends? i barley have time to cook dinner”. i will let you know right now…you. do. have. time.

its up to you how much time you have.

trust me, i always feel like im in a rush, i feel like i never have enough time but recently, i have told myself that i DO have time and i NEED to make the time for others. in turn, i am making time for myself here because i am able to relax with friends and enjoy life in the moment.

so if you need a reminder, here it is: make the time for friends, dont wait for the weekend. slow down, relax for a night and host a friend, have them host you or go out. MAKE THE TIME FOR BOTH OF YOU.

this really wasnt something i did until i was out of college. i blame my friend lizzie. i love her to death and shes one of the main people who has brought me out of that shell of “not having enough time” or “ughhhh i will just hang out with them on the weekend”. her and i have pretty much do a lot of our hanging out during the week and its something i always look forward to doing. thanks girl!!

one of my favorite things to do with friends is invite them over and cook them dinner. yes. this is your invite to come to my house for dinner. i loooooovvvveeee cooking. not that you didnt know that already….

two weeks ago now, my blog bestie arissa came over and yes, i cooked her dinner! i loved it because like i said, it broke up my week, we had girl talk, we shared drinks together, we shared dinner but most importantly took a break from our busy lives and just relaxed. aaaaaand you cant go wrong when your friend brings four different slices of pie for dessert. the pies were from honeypie! theyre for sure a 10/10.

since its sunday, i challenge you to connect with a friend, even if its just a simple text or call, make plans , cook them dinner, have them cook you dinner. use your friends as a positive in your week, in your life. regardless of how busy you think you are, you should always make time for others. friends are an important part of life. friends should lift you up when youre feeling down, they should make you laugh and make you forget about all your worries.

dont let this sunday bring down your week or your friends week, meaning reach out to a friend or two or five. make plans. meet for a drink, for dinner. go get coffee, go to local shops and go shopping. call them to say hi. text them funny pictures of the two of you. DO SOMETHING! make time for your friends, i promise, you wont regret it πŸ™‚

xoxo kelsey

blogger power

hello all you beautiful people!

like ive said like four million times, the only goal i made this year was to focus on my blog. and i think i have been pretty good at it. i mean, we are only what? three weeks in now? STAYING STRONG! i also redid our spare room and turned it into an office and i thought to myself: “this is where i will go to write, to get away for a little bit so i can focus”. nope. here i am, in the kitchen, listening to the milwaukee bucks game and waiting for dinner to finish. sooooome things are still in the works πŸ˜‰ overall, id say my goal is going pretty good πŸ˜‰

i think one of my favorite things about working at this goal is meeting new people. i love seeing other peoples work, i love seeing the different styles, the different topics and the way others set up their pictures.

i really like discovering women who are doing the same thing as me. i find comfort in knowing im not alone in this. its refreshing to see that youre not the only one who is working towards a goal, youre not alone when it comes to trying to better yourself and by putting yourself out there for others to read.

with that being said, the women i come across are nothing but nice, encouraging and inspiring.

and that has taught me a lot and no, i didnt just realize all this in past couple of weeks of blogging but its taught me we should stand together.

as women, as bloggers, as creators.

we shouldnt sit here and bash one another, we shouldnt sit here and compare ourselves to other people becasue we are all are our own person. why should you compare yourself to someone when you the only person in the world that is like you. trust me, its taken me a looooong time to not compare myself to the other women i was following or reading about.

youre doing the best you can, you should hold yourself up to your own standard. set your standard high.

we should support each other, not follow a person because “i hate them so much and i cannot unfollow them”, or “i hope this person fails because their content sucks” or better yet: “i only follow a person to see how shitty their life is”. we should encourage growth, we should show others how much we enjoy their content and what theyre doing, we should ask for advise and give advise that way each person is able to flourish and shine.

regardless if youre a blogger or not, make a point to be kind, nice and supportive. tell people that you like what theyre rocking, tell people you like them as a person and tell people that they can do anything they put their mind to.

well, thats all i got for now.

you all rock my socks – encouraging, right? πŸ™‚

xoxo kelsey

oh sh!t, its sunday!

happy sunday!

i told myself that one of my goals for 2019 was to put more time/effort into my blog. and lets be honest, that was the only goal i made lol. with it being my only goal, i have been thinking about what i can do to make my blog better, to make it mean more to the people who read it.

so here we are!

i like sharing my insight on how i feel about things, i like to share my experiences in life with others. tell them what they can do to fix a situation or give them tips on the over all topic.

which means………………….

i came up with “oh sh!t, its sunday!” because unless youre a beyonce, i know you have that “oh shit” feeling on sundays. so what i wanted to start is: blog posts on sundays to help relieve some of those “sunday blues”. what i plan on doing is, taking something from the week and write about it. MIND BLOWING, i know.

so here we go, as always enjoy!

i think we can all agree, this wisconsin winter isnt like most. well, here in milwaukee, it hasnt been “normal”. why do i say that? because yesterday it was 55! so what did nick and i do? took glen on a four mile walk on the lake front. if youre in the milwaukee area, i suggest walking south shore park! its sooooo pretty and it makes you feel like youre upnorth. well, almost.

now youre thinking, cool you took a four mile walk with you dog, so what?

during my walk, i realized i had forgotten what the outdoors does for the body. throughout the whole walk, i kept having flash backs to summer. i love summers in milwaukee because there is SO much to do, outside. but once winter hits, there is little to nothing to do outside here.

i think its important to get outside as much as we can during any time of the year. let me tell you, its been 24 hours since my walk and i still feel refreshed. i feel less fuzzy, less itching to do something even though it seems like i can never fill the void but yesterday did the trick.

i normally wouldnt have gone out for a long ass walk in the middle of january, i normally wouldnt have even wanted to leave the house and i normally wouldnt have been so inspired over a single walk but i was. it was because of the fact i did something new, something i havent really done before. (yes ive taken long walks before but never like the one i took yesterday) because of those feelings, it drove me to keep walking, drove me to feel creative and drove me to take about 100,000 pictures. it drove me to want to share what i was feeling yesterday.

regardless of where or when, i challenge you to push yourself, do things to clear your mind and to bring energy back into your life. this can be something as simple as just going outside and going around the block to something youve been wanting to do for the longest time. like trying barre or trying that recipe youve been wanted to make. dont think to hard here people! i mean come on, i look a long walk in january and i feel like a new person!! dont get all twisted up in the: “new year, new me”. yes, it is a new year but youre are still you. you are still you who is always improving, growing and changing who you are daily. its important to push your limits, to do little things to improve your mood, your life and your wellbeing.

if you are slow to work up the courage to try something or are holding back on doing things that makes you happy or feeling refreshed, this is your wake up call! get out there and do something for YOU! go for that long walk and clear your mind. go make my chicken nuggets or my enchilada chili that youve been “meaning to get to”. call your friend and have dinner with them. or better, creep on your blog friend…see what antique stores shes at in milwaukee, run into her and agree on cooking dinner together soon and both blog about it πŸ™‚

***sunday remember: do something for YOU this week. something thats new or different so youre able to feel refreshed and motivated!

happy sunday night and have a good week!

xoxo

kelsey

i care but i dont?

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(flattering, i know)

hi!

since i have been spilling out my feelings, why not keep doing it? right?

i am 24, yes i am not lying here and ill be 25 in december (let me know if you want my address to send me cards & gifts). i feel like i have seen a lot in my life thus far. no i am not some warrior who can walk on water but i feel like the way i grew up is a lot different than others around me. i mean, YES i know we all grew up differently, i get that. i feel as if i am who i am today (still changing and grow) because of how i was raised and how i grew up.

growing up, i was told to “keep my mouth shut” and im guessing i was told that so i wouldnt get into trouble. but now as an adult that is biting me in the ass because its hard for me to express why/when im mad. it doesnt matter if i am mad over something simple at home or something more complex. since i was taught to “keep my mouth shut”, i tend to not say a lot to express how i am feeling and i go to my default lines of: “i dont care”. but 9 times out of 10, i actually do care but lack the balls to say anything.

i think it is important to care about a situation regardless of what that situation may be. to feel and to experience whatever it may be in that moment and beyond. but i feel as if we are given so many opportunities to not care, to not stand up for what we REALLY feeling. we tell ourselves that we dont care but in all honesty, we do. its more than just saying “i dont care” and leaving it there, its about:

caring about how it made you feel.

caring about what its taught you or going to teach you.

caring about what you believe in.

caring whether you agree or disagree with the subject at hand.

caring whether or not you should let it go or reflect on it more.

caring enough to keep thinking about it and DOING SOMETHING ABOUT YOUR THINKING.

youre not in the wrong for saying you dont care because you actually might not fucking care and guess what, if you dont care, you dont care! but then the other times you say you dont care anddddd 10 mins to an hour later you have that gut feeling of: “yeah i said i dont care but i actually do, what is wrong with me?”. nothing is wrong with you. well maybe something is but i dont think so πŸ™‚ . you care enough about the situation to keep thinking about it and from there, you should reflect on it.

you dont know how many times a day, something happens at work and i wish i could look off into a camera like they do on the office. its because I get so mad or upset over something and end up saying: “i dont care” but then i think about it for the rest of the day. i am slowly learning to recognize those feelings and realizing that i do care and i should do something about it. i am learning to recognize that saying how i feel isnt a bad thing.

i just took a deep breath because  i feel so much better…so take a deep breath too πŸ™‚

xoxo kelsey

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me realizing how weird this looks but i dont care, i just have to learn to be more creative with taking pictures lol

yeah i workout but

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hey party people,

i am currently pumping iron as i type is…just kidding, we all know that i would drop the weight on my computer and i was get mad and probs cry over it.

i have a disclaimer before i go on, i express what i do on here because its what i am feeling, experiencing or thinking. when i am writing about something, i do in hopes of not feeling alone, in hopes of other not feeling alone and to make others reflect on their own thinking.

i think it is safe to say that we follow and live in a world of the latest workouts, clean meals and cheat days. but to me, in some ways, seems very unrealistic.

buttttttttt i am guilty of it, i do follow instagram accounts that are full of workouts, supplements and measuring food. but at the end of the day, yes, i do learn a few things from those women but they also stress me the fuck out! here i sit and think: “how does one get up at the butt crack of dawn, work out, get ready, go to work, coming home make dinner, relax and do it all over again? YES I UNDERSTAND its a lifestyle, its the way THEY choose to live their life and thats 100% okay with me. but its not me.

heres my view of it, how i see things…

we are constantly told we have to eat healthy, we have to drink 500 gallons of water a day and we cannot miss a single day of working out because if we do, then we arent “healthy” or “taking care of ourselves”.

i guess the reason why i become so “upset” over all the accounts i follow or just see passing through instagram, is because that lifestyle doesnt make sense to me. again, how i see it is, there is more to life then all of that stuff. more to life than working out almost everyday, measuring your food and worrying about your weight going up or down a few pounds.like i said before, its a lifestyle that makes sense to the person doing it but as an outsider looking in, its hard for me to understand.

to take anything away from this rant is, to be healthy. be healthy in a way you find fitting. be healthy in a way thats possible, realistic and appropriate for who you are as a person. if you wanna try a new work out, do it. if you wanna try to eat less meat, do it. if you wanna eat out less, then do it!! (you can always come to me for healthy recipes πŸ™‚ ) you can do anything you put your mind to, its your life! youre in control and you know what is best for you.i guess the overall point i am trying to make here is, we are given this one life. a life that you make your own. yes i work out and yes i eat healthy but i also am not afraid to have five beers and a whole frozen pizza in one sitting. i am not afraid to miss a day or two or even three of working out because LIFE HAPPENS!

its not worth it to beat yourself up over not having a heathy meal for every single meal you had this week, its not worth to beat yourself up over having a drink more than once a week. its not worth it to beat yourself up over not working out for a couple of days, or weeks or months. its not worth beating yourself up over thinking youre not “doing it right” like others around you.

yikes, this is getting long… but i want you to know that i personally have had those feelings of thinking of: “i cannot eat this because ive already ate a lot today” or ” i really should do a workout because i didnt do one yesterday and i ate like shit today” or “i need to chug this water so i can have the recommended eight glasses of water a day”.

its all about doing what is right for YOU. your mindset is everything. if you want to count all the food in all your meals, workout seven days a week and not eat two frozen pizza in one sitting then, do it. but if you want to have a glass of wine or two everyday but still eat healthy and workout four to five times a week, do it. its all about what makes sense in your life.

my goal is to eat my planned meals for lunch, make dinner every single night and work out four to six times a week but guess what. that doesnt happen. because why you ask? life. life happens. we are all going through different things, we are all working different jobs and we all have a different definition of healthy.

now go eat meal prep while eating that frozen pizza and drinking a beer πŸ˜‰

xoxo kelsey

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i recommend the south shore terrance, who doesnt like beer, food and a beer garden?

what am i doing?

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hey my friends,

i feel like the season change is creating all these honest feelings, not that i wasnt honest before this but something has been on my mind.

i sit here, 24 and i am at a loss of what i want to do in life. dont worry… i am FULLY aware that i have a lifetime to figure out what i want to do. i am not worried about that. i run my life, my life doesnt run me.

but at the end of the day, its really eats away at me that i dont know what career path i want to take. a part of me, which i think is only natural, gets a little jealous when i see my peers, my past schoolmates and friends figuring it out. what i mean here is, i have friends who went to school for nursing and now theyre bomb ass nurses. it even comes down to as simple as nick, he went to school for finance, and now is getting his MBA. but HOW DID YOU KNOW THATS WHAT YOU WANTED TO DO???

ugh. (insert some quote about how its okay and youll figure it out and all the bullshit).

^^okay, i would totally do something like that too.

yeah i went to school for education soooo why am i not in education? the main reason why im not a teacher is because i opted out of getting my teaching license (one of the best choices i have ever made) and personally, i dont want to be a teacher. i see very close friends of mine struggle with teaching. this may sounds selfish but i am glad im not in their shoes. but do ask them, i support them 100%. simply just isnt for me.

once in a while, i get the question: “why did you waste your time getting a degree that you arent using?”. being asked that makes my face hot, i get sooooo mad! i will say though, i wish i wouldve gotten a more “versatile” degree but at that time in my life, education was what i wanted to do and honestly it still is. just not teaching πŸ˜‰ (would would be here all day if i had to explain what i actually wanna do, it’s a lot of different ideas and thoughts wrapped into one). i do not regret my choice to get an education degree because i have met so so so many amazing women and children. another reason why i do not regret my choice in getting a degree in education is because its what made sense in my life then and its also kind of how i feel now.

the job i have is not in education. but, the job i have makes sense in life right now. will i regret this choice i am making this second? will i regret not being in education and instead being in costumer service? no. no i wont.

why you ask?

because everything you do in life, is for a reason. some may believe this while others might not but i do. how i see it is, is if i regret all my past schooling, jobs and what not, i wouldnt be where i am today. am i happy where i am today? i am. am i happy with what i am doing in life, no…not 100%.

what!!! im being honest.

but if i didnt try now things, test different outlooks and push myself in different ways, i wouldnt know what i want and dont want.

yes, im 24. i have grown a lot as a person and i will always continue to grow. i mean i have too…i got home yesterday and cried twice because i felt so lost in what i am doing in life. but then i had to remind myself that ITS OKAY!!!! little steps and little bumps (insert joke about be falling off my bike and cracking my head open here) are totally normal, they are what help you figure out what you wanna do in life whether it be now or in 10 or 20 years.

walk away from this knowing youre not alone if you have no idea what you want to do in life. walk away from this being proud that you have your ducks in a row and know what you want do. walk away from this and reflect on your past and know you did what you did because its what made sense, during that time in your life.

woof, i feel like i just wrote a college reflection paper about education (where my ed friends at who will understand this! lol)

rock it! no matter what it is youre rocking.

xoxo

kelsey